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I'm so sorry to hear about your horrible experience. I am married myself and have often considered that to be my worst nightmare. I was in a long relationship before my marriage to my husband where I found out at a party that my boyfriend was cheating on me with 2 different girls steadily at the same time for quite some time. My experience was not a good one. I decided to forgive him as he begged and pleaded and told me he would never do it again, but guess what he did do it again and again. It was very sad. Mind you, I had not invested the time and love in a marriage that you have with your wife. Now I have invested 7 years with my loving husband and if it happened now I would not be able to walk away so easily either. I would definately go to counselling if she is a decent lady and deserves your love. If she doesn't deserve you then maybe it's time to seriously examine things and move on. Nobody deserves to be betrayed like that. I don't believe there is any excuse for that kind of behavior, I don't care what the situation is. If your not happy with your partner then leave and then find someone else. Don't cheat. I hope you get the drinking under control as that will only lead to depression and more problems. I hope you're going to be ok. It's going to be very hard but you can do it. I know you can. I feel for ya.
Tim Horton
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How does one forgive ??? PLEASE, I really need your help, PLEASE ???
by run dont walk inwell, the worst case scenario happened in my life,.
i had a topic awhile back about, have you ever thought about leaving your mate for someone else??.
i never updated as much as i should of ?.
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Are JWs "Approval Whores"?
by Scully induring a quiet moment at work the other night, i picked up a back issue of o magazine, one of the current quintessentially authoritative journalistic voices of the modern north american woman.
it was the december 2003 issue, and i was intrigued by the title of the article: "the halo effect" which promised to examine the condition of 'being too good' for one's own good.
the preamble contained the phrase "self-sacrificing" and i was immediately zapped by that standard jw buzz-word and the article's suggestion that being "self-sacrificing" is not all it's cracked up to be.. you can read the article here: stop seeking approval.
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I really enjoyed your post. I can't sleep. It's 2:00 am and feel kind of tearful. I was thinking about the lord's prayer and what it means. I read your post and it really picked me up. My hubby and I are just leaving the Jw's so this is all new to me. What you wrote sure did make sense though. I find I have very low self esteem but never attributited it to the truth. If my spelling is bad its because it's very late. You sound like one smart, experienced lady. Thanks Tim Horton's wifey. I do plan to get my own alias/name or whatever ya call it. We're just having trouble setting it up. Maybe you can help me about the Lord's prayer. Thy kingdom come thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. If there isn't a new system, then what does that mean? I have so many doubts about the society but that one still stumps me. I don't know if I quoted that part exactly correct it's kind of late, but you get the idea. Anyways talk to you later.
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Which Mini-van should I buy?
by confusedjw incan those of you with mini vans help?
(3 years old, 50,000 miles).
if you have had one would you buy it again?
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MY inlaws or maybe you could call them outlaws, (all depends on the nature of your relationship)have a Toyota Sienna and they can't stop raving about it. They've come out here to visit and rented various other types of Mini-vans but nothing compares to there's apparently. Hope it helps. Mind you that's just one man's opinion. Honda's and Toyota's do seem to have the best track record though. I do agree about the consumer report guide. It really helps.
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What's in your glass tonight?
by bikerchic inso forget hillbillys post...... what's in your glass, mug or can tonight?.
me, oj and vodka, yeah a screwdriver.
i wanted a sloscrew but we didn't have the slo so i had to settle for the regular screwdriver.. whatcha drinking?.
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Hey baby, I'm drinkin a nice rum and coke. It's going down nice and easy. Then I'm going to move on to a rum and eggnog. Your drink sounds good too though. Are you enjoying it? Drinking alone are we? Or do you have the biker gang to go along with the name. Which I like by the way. I'll be thinking of you as I take my next sip. Tim Horton's honey bunny(wife)
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Hey Dub, It's Friday night.........
by hillbilly in.
lets grab a beer and chase honeys.... anyone else wanna come with us........????.
hill ( got freinds in low places class)
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If your a hillbilly you'd probably fit in with my crazy neighbours!!!!! You better have a shower first, though. Hey isn't it rum and eggnog season now? Don't forget the duck tape too eh?
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What would you think?
by ConcernedMom inwhen i was a teenager, one of my friends started dating a jw.
he "wasn't into his religion, just his parents were.
" she ended up pregnant, quit school to get married and after that, we pretty much only saw her standing on street corners or in mcd's on sunday mornings after meetings, with her (3 i think) little boys all dressed up in their shirts and ties.
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Hi Deb, Sometimes it's true you can read too much into things and it can get you into trouble? I know I tend to be paranoid about certain things and lots of times I'm right but lots of times I'm wrong too. So I've found it pays to ask questions and get your facts straight. Maybe the parents just did't want their name in the paper. I know JW's tend to be very private about stuff like that. Then again there is a very strong possibility that they could be shunning him. If that is the case, it definately is a very sad senario. Your kids give you so much joy and pleasure. I can't imagine missing my 2 babies wedding days. I have a 13 year old and a 16 month old. To miss out on that just wouldn't happen. I don't kow how any parent could. I definately understand your concern.You'll have to let me know what you find out if anything and I'd love to hear from you. Mrs. Horton
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Down and out.....
by morty in.
it's been a very long week.i have spent most of week in the hospital with my nana.. she had a massive heart attack on tuesday and it is not looking good.she has gone down hill fast since pop's passed recentainly.. please say a prayer for her.
it would mean alot to me.. morty
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Hi Mort, Sorry to hear about your Nana in the hospital. I hope she is doing better. I remember when my Grampa was sick, it was a very hard time for me. I love my Grandparents so much. It's nice to see that your actively in her life. Not enough people spend the time they should with family.It's sad really. I'm so glad to hear she has you in her time of need.Take care, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Let me know how she does. Mrs. Horton
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What Do You Do Now ----That You Would Never Have Done As A Witness?
by minimus inhas your behaviour changed that much that you are doing things that you would never have done as a witness??
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My husband and I now go to the xxx rated stores and look at all the perverted stuff. It's really fun. The other day we bought our first sex toy. I don't think the elders would improve of that too much. Our sex life is better than ever. Think of all those JW's that are missing out. Hee hee I've always been a bit on the wild side but not out to hurt anybody wild, nothing like that. I always felt like I was being held back, restrained, I'm sure alot can relate. I also like to curse now and again. Sugar just doesn't cut it sometimes. I don't have a real potty mouth though. I don't want to be a biker chick, just free.
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*** Watchtower 1972 January 1 pp.31-2 Questions from Readers ***
Questions from Readers
? Do homosexual acts on the part of a married person constitute a Scriptural ground for divorce, freeing the innocent mate to remarry??U.S.A.
Homosexuality is definitely condemned in the Bible as something that will prevent individuals from gaining God's approval. (1 Cor. 6:9, 10) However, whether an innocent mate would Scripturally be able to remarry after procuring a legal divorce from a mate guilty of homosexual acts must be determined on the basis of what the Bible says respecting divorce and remarriage?
While both homosexuality and bestiality are disgusting perversions, in the case of neither one is the marriage tie broken.It is broken only by acts that make an individual "one flesh" with a person of the opposite sex other than his or her legal marriage mate.